There are a lot of traditional wedding rules that are okay to break, or at the very least, bend to fit your needs, but the plus one wedding guest thing is something that requires careful consideration. Not only do the results affect your guests, but they affect you – more specifically, your budget.
Traditionally, married and engaged couples and anyone in a serious/long-term
relationship are given a plus one on the wedding invitation. It’s up for
debate on whether a person in the beginning stages of a relationship should be
invited with a plus one. But how can you know who’s in a relationship and what
stage that relationship is in?
If you have a lot of friends and family, but
don’t know their relationship statuses or if you just can’t afford a ton of
plus one invites, here are some things to consider and etiquette tips to help
you make sure your guests are treated equally.
Your Wedding Party
They’ve been with you from the beginning of your wedding planning journey, so it’s a nice gesture to extend a plus one to each bridesmaid and groomsmen. They may not be in a serious relationship or want to bring anyone at all, but having the option will show them a level of appreciation for their friendship and support.
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Who Don’t Know Anyone
If you’re inviting a childhood friend or
extended family member who may not know anyone outside of you and your parents
or partner, consider extending a plus one to this guest. You won’t have a lot
of time to mingle with said guest, so having someone there for him/her to talk
to will provide a level of comfort.
a Plus One Rule
If picking and choosing who can bring a
plus-one sounds like a tricky task, create an overarching rule like “only close
family members can bring a date,” and stick to it. Exceptions can be made, of
course, but having a blanket rule will help guide you through the process.
and Casual Daters
Don’t feel the need to give plus-ones to
friends and family members who casually date. Basically, if anyone has been in
a relationship for less than a year (or in an on-again-off-again situation),
you’re not required to give them a plus one. This is especially true if the
guest will know other guests at the wedding. If not, then it’s up to you
whether or not you allow them to bring a date (for their comfort’s sake).
As for coworkers, it’s kind of an all or nothing situation. If you want to avoid drama and people feeling left out, don’t invite anyone. If you want to invite a few close coworkers, do so on the down low and give each of them a plus one. In this situation, you’ll also want to keep wedding talk in the office to a minimum. If you’re inviting all of your coworkers, then all must be given a plus one.
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Just remember: each additional guest adds to the number of dinner plates, chairs, programs, etc. That’s not to scare you away from giving out plus-ones, but to remind you that your budget and venue size plays a huge role in your guest list count. Crunching the numbers and staying on the conservative side will help you make better decisions when it comes to addressing the invitations. If you end up having more wiggle room in your budget or venue space, feel free to add on later.
Still not sure how to handle the whole plus one situation? I bet I can help! I’ve seen a variety of tips and tricks that will help you to gracefully handle “the plus one” and avoid stepping on any toes!